The words of a friend have been weighing heavily on me the last few days. We had breakfast during the middle of last week and he obviously asked about Anne and how she was doing. I shared and along with sharing how she was doing I told him I have had a very hard time posting anything to our website or Facebook about it. I mentioned that I very much like sharing good news and love the shared hope we have with all our friends. However, during the crazy roller coaster we are on, I find it very hard to share the struggles and the minor wins. My friend and I have shared notes over the years as he has a close friend who has been fighting cancer a little longer than Anne. When I told him how I felt, he mentioned that his friend has the same problems with sharing, and that he had been silent for a while, and everyone was very worried. His friend passed away on Friday.
I don’t want to sugar coat what we are going through but I also don’t want people to assume because I have been quiet that everything is in the toilet. So briefly, Anne was in the hospital for about 37 days. The surgery was potentially risky and we thought we were over the immediate hump when the surgery was successful. But, before she was in the recovery room, her doctor let us know that the next 4 days would be very critical and there were potential complications for which there was no cure. After 4 days we exhaled another big sigh of relief but it was another 3 weeks before we could get Anne home, three long weeks complete with major ups and downs. She is home and we have nurses at our house about every day. She is getting stronger and we are working with doctors to get her into another type of treatment but that is also a long road. The kids are all doing well, we continue to have the most amazing support system anyone could hope for and we remain faithful that Anne can get through this. We also are faithful that if that is not meant to be, our family will be together again and we are grateful for that and all else we have.